How to Get Out of a Rut

By on May 21, 2018

We’ve all been here. I know I certainly have. Sometimes you just feel stuck. You have a vision of where you see your life, but your reality is different. You’re not making the progress you want to and you feel down. Maybe you don’t know what you want to do or where you want to be, but you know you’re not happy with where you currently are.

I want to let you know that this is completely normal. In fact, you should find comfort in knowing that you at least want more out of your life and that’s a great place to start.  However, you have to leave your rut behind at some point or it’ll only be damaging to your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.

Here’s a list on how to get out of a rut.

Acknowledge you’re in a rut

The first step to solving any problem is to first admit there is one. Denial will only make you feel worse and make solving it that much harder. Accept you’re in one and forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for the time you lost and for the way you’re feeling. The sooner you acknowledge, the sooner you can heal. Isn’t that what you want? Isn’t that why you’re reading this? Acknowledgement leads to healing.

Organize your thoughts

Allowing your thoughts to run wild will cause you to overthink and make your problems seem worse than they really are. Take some time to write down what it is your feeling and what’s bothering you. By doing this you accomplish two things:

  1. Because you narrowed it down to what’s written it becomes easier to manage, which leads to the next point.
  2. Once you know exactly what the problem is, you have a place to start in order make a change.

Figure out what you want

Take some time, be patient with yourself and figure out what it is you want. You know you’re not happy with your current situation, but what comes next? You need to identify what’s causing your pain, and what are the results you believe will ease it. For example, if you’re not happy with your current job then maybe it’s time to consider making a change. You’ll then need to find out what are you looking for in a career, which leads to the next point..



Set goals for yourself

It doesn’t have to be a major goal. Set small, manageable goals that you could take action on. This will allow you to make progress, gain confidence and build some momentum on future goals as well.


Speak to someone about it

Sometimes it’s good to speak to someone about how you’re feeling. It’s good for many reasons. It’ll help you get things off your chest and put it all out there. Also, that person more than likely experienced a rut themselves at some point in their life and could tell you about their experience on how they overcame it. That could provide you some tips that could help you with your journey.  Another benefit of speaking with someone who knows you is that they can tell you some of the positive things that make you a special person. They may see things in you that you aren’t able to see in yourself. Sometimes it may be that your rut is caused by you being too hard on yourself, and they could help change the way you’re viewing yourself.

Practice gratitude

The situation you’re in is certainly a tough one. You feel trapped and confused. However, there is always something to be grateful for. Just the mere fact that you’re alive is something to be grateful for. Think about the many people that are in hospitals battling for their health, or are in homeless shelters without a place to call home, or are in food banks worried about where their next meal will come from. Unless your issues are either of those, you have a lot to be grateful for. Having gratitude will give you perspective on your own life and your situation.

It’s normal to go through this and to feel alone. The reality is though you aren’t. We’ve all been in a rut and some people struggle with this on a day-to-day basis. What are some of the things you’ve done to help pick yourself up? Share in the comments below!




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Yusuf is a Canadian freelance writer and author. He's also a lover of music, particularly Hip-Hop and R&B, and an avid basketball fan. Yusuf released his second book 'Words of Expression,' which is available at all major retailers. You can connect with Yusuf on social media (@Yusuf_AOfficial)